A Quick Thought…

I’d just like to let everyone know that women aren’t really complaining about chivalry being dead…The only people I hear talking about chivalry are men who claim that women are upset about men not holding doors open for them.

Women want equal pay, equal rights, equal everything. I couldn’t give a shit if you hold a damn door open for me or like…throw your coat over a puddle so I can walk over it.

This is a non-issue, guys, and it’s distracting from real inequality and the real issues here. So let’s put it to bed: no one is concerned about the “death of chivalry.” Be polite, normal humans to men and women and intersex people and trans people, and let it go.

Now. Next step, equal rights. K thanks bye.



Cool It, People

Lately, I’ve had a few adults (and I say adults like I’m not one because they’re my parents’ age and also because I refuse to grow up) make sassy and inappropriate comments about my appearance. “Oh my goodness, what have you done to your hair? And you’ve got things in your nose!” When I hear these comments, I never quite know how to react, so I default to laughing a little and sort of ignoring the fact that I was just insulted tremendously by someone who should know better.

Maybe I should put them in their place, say, “Listen, sister, you better cool it because that’s rude and you’re clearly an ignorant moron.” Maybe I should forget everything I’ve ever learned and believed about nonviolence and just throw a glass of wine in their face — glass included. But today I’ve decided to just have a mini-rant on the internet because that’s what feels necessary. A little bebe PSA on how to act, because you’re an adult, and you know what you say is hurtful.

Yes, I choose to look this way. I choose to dye my hair and pierce my nose and have tattoos. But other people have a choice, too. They can either accept me for the way that I am, or judge me for what they see on the surface. They can choose to actually explore the creativity and kindness I have to offer the world, or they can — through willful ignorance — decide that they don’t care to expend any effort by getting to know me.

I’m pretty tame looking, if we’re being honest. I know people with so many tattoos and piercings you barely know what color their skin was originally. It takes all kinds of people to make this world as gorgeous as it is, and for people to expect everyone to look and act just like them is pretty unrealistic and frankly a little ridiculous. People are going to have to get used to seeing colored hair and piercings and style choices that they don’t like, because welcome to real life — things change. People don’t wear corsets and wigs anymore, thank goodness. Styles and tastes progress.

I think the most important thing to take away is this: if you see someone and you decide you don’t like their hair or their clothes or their septum piercing or their massive leg tattoo, get over it. Choose to not get a tattoo for yourself, but don’t put others down for their personal choices. Those choices are some of the few that will literally never hurt you personally — my nose piercing impacts zero percent of your life. Don’t get one yourself, sure — it would be pretty weird to see everyone wandering around with septum piercings and mooing like cows — but shut the hell up about mine.

I’m proud of myself for being an individual. I’m glad I don’t look like every other 21 year old white girl on this planet. I’m happy that when I walk out my door I do it with integrity and don’t try to pretend to be someone I’m not. As long as we’re all expressing our true selves, I say rock on. And if you’ve got an issue with that, go complain about it to someone else.


Cougs Vote

This video was made by a friend of mine (we went to high school together and now are both at WSU) in support of Marriage Equality in Washington State. If your state’s ballot has a similar issue to vote on, vote in support of gay marriage. If it doesn’t, start working to get legislation in support of it! DO IT! Because we should give gays the same rights we have as heterosexuals, including the happiness of a wedding day. And, you know, those 50 years of marriage that we take for granted. They don’t take it for granted. Help them out.

Vote to Approve Ref 74 in Washington State. “No freedom ’til we’re equal, damn right I support it.”

You can see the video here. Sorry to those who tried to watch it before, apparently I can’t internet and posted something that didn’t exist.

10 points to whoever can find me in this video, lookin’ awkward. But hey, that’s not what it’s about; it’s about my family and friends being equal under the law.

All We Are Saying…

Sometimes, I wonder if there will ever be world peace. Sometimes I wonder if there will ever be total equality. Sometimes I wonder if everyone will just shut up and love one another instead of pointing fingers and hating and destroying. I’m one of the most optimistic people I know, but sometimes it all just seems so futile. But I’m nothing if not persistant, so listen up:

Your arguments against gay equality suck. THEY SUCK. “In the beginning it was a man and a woman not a man and a man.” That is the most bullshit argument I’ve ever heard. Uh, yeah, maybe it was that way in the beginning, but they also didn’t wear clothes in the beginning, lived in a garden, were completely naive to the problems of the world, and I bet they didn’t even truly love each other. One of their children murdered the other. “In the beginning,” you weren’t allowed to speak to a woman while she was on her period because she was “unclean.” Do you still practice that? Because I’m pretty sure nobody in their right mind does. Do you really think God would refuse to love someone simply because they are homosexual? Do you think Jesus would have turned away from a sick gay man simply because he was gay? Do you really think it’s okay for you to hate people you don’t even know simply because you don’t understand them? Because it’s not. It’s not okay, and your reasoning sucks. It just makes me sick, and I can’t believe your kind of thinking is still around.

On another note, all these uprisings in the middle east have given me hope. The reformers are trying to change their governments peacefully, and I commend them for that. It warms my heart to see people uniting for a cause so important as freedom, and I sincerely hope that they win it. With that in mind, I cannot believe that leaders in Libya are gunning protesters down. Do they honestly believe that they will gain any credibility by killing off the opposition? Why can’t we just work together? Someone needs to give them a John Lennon CD, so they can understand that all we are saying is give peace a chance. Because ultimately, peace makes people happier and happiness prolongs peace. Isn’t that what we all want? Happiness and peace? And the cynics who don’t believe world peace is possible just prolong the hatred in the world.

So really, all we are saying is give peace a chance. Just love people you don’t understand. Try to understand them and their point of view. Knowledge is the ultimate form of power. Just…just try to imagine what you do to people when you say and do hurtful, hateful things. Try to understand that shunning and hating gays and all different types of people you don’t believe are “acceptable” hurts them and ultimately hurts your soul.

What would Jesus do? He’d love everyone, that’s what he’d do.